Love and UFO's: Why the Fields of the Paranormal need more COUPLES! (and chocolate!)

Yesterday the world was aflutter with chocolate overdoses, dead rose petals scattered from bedrooms to hallways to ... places. Champagne was popped and proposals were made. Love was in the air. But that was on TV. In the real world, all the lonely people were trying to figure out just where DO they all belong.

It got me to thinking: Maybe LOVE is what's missing from the Field(s) of the Paranormal. Not so much love as a good dose of Male/Female chemistry.

For a while now, the men have dominated Ufology and even a majority of the Ghost Hunters are male. If I asked you to name your favorite Cryptozoologist, it's most likely a guy. But it doesn't have to be this way. Yes, it would be nice if the 'boys' club had room for girls, but then what would our respective fields of curiosity and awe be without  Brad and Sherry Steiger or the legacy of Ed and Lorraine Warren?

You see, what Ufology and the Paranormal is missing is COUPLES!

Don't get me wrong, there's been the occasional coupling of researchers of the same sex (mostly men) who have contributed a great deal of work because a lot of this stuff takes more than one mind---more than one point of view---to figure out.

But the male and female dynamic is something different. It's the ID and the EGO. It's the Believer and the Sceptic. It's Scully and Mulder, saving the world, one day at a time in their own special way. And what would it all have amounted to if either one of them went it alone?

The thing with the Paranormal is the men have the fortitude to drop everything and search for the unknowable, while the women have the foresight to keep things in perspective, and what does that mean? It means that when one person is researching and getting answers, the other person is asking, "What can we get out of this?" And the debate ensues and it goes on and on, however long it has to, because the two people most interested in finding the answers are always together.

They don't leave each other for vacations. They don't decide to branch off into other endeavors leaving one half to find a replacement to keep the seat warm for the next podcast. Because the mystery that is the Paranormal is not something so small and contained that it can take only one mind to comprehend. There are far too many minds trying to take this thing apart and put it back together, what have we got to show for it?

What the world needs now is love, sweet love, but what Ufology/Ghost hunting/Bigfoot researching and the full spectrum of Curious Fields needs is two minds who can agree to disagree, sleep on it, wake up the next day and revisit it and always keep it fresh... while operating from the same side of the fence.

So come on guys, couple up already. Or find some one of like-minded interest and curiosity and equal parts insanity because at the end of the day you're really going to want to roll over and say, "So what do you think about this whole Paracas skulls thing?" And you know damn well you want the person on the other side of the bed to know what the hell you're talking about.